'Something-Out-of-Nothing' Attitude

I really hope you have pleasant memories of birthdays, holidays, and everything in between.  There were times I was just thankful my mom could make the powdered mashed potatoes we got from a donation into a mouthwatering masterpiece.  It takes a sense of humor and a few sticks of butter, that's for sure!  Making something out of nothing was mom's specialty.  Don't you dare look in that fridge and say there's nothing to eat!  

One time, when I was about sixteen, I thought I would do my mom a huge favor.  I took the turkey out of the fridge and pre-heated the oven while my mom was out shopping.  So proud of myself, I began to season it, baste it with melted butter, then decoratively adorn it with pineapple rings, cherries and dried cloves.  She explained to me what I did and we laughed hysterically.  The turkey was confused and the ham was offended.  Another silly memory:  I wondered for a long time why my friends left Santa cookies and milk when we left Santa beer and tamales.  I guess he takes whatever you've got!    

I'll spare you the details of the events that caused me heartache.  This year is full of  it's own stories already.  What I will attempt to do here is to resurrect my mom's "something out of nothing" attitude and run with it.  For quite some time I've wanted to move away from checking a box.  You know, to do the thing because it's always what we do.  "We always..." fill in the blank.  "It's a tradition."  In a way, this pandemic has caused us--or even forced us--to do most things differently, or not at all.  So, dream with me a moment.  Nothing is the same right now.  You get to do this differently.  We get to do this differently.  

Here are some things to consider.  These may not be the things you're longing for or traditions you're used to, but they can be new ideas to help you through this time.  You might even keep them later on.  

• Scavenger hunts are really fun, especially on a video call with grandpa, I promise.  Use items inside and outside of  your house.
• Get dressed up and have a themed dinner.  
• Send someone a box of their favorite things and surprise them.  
• Cook your spouse their favorite meal or help them complete a daunting task (laundry, please do the laundry).  My husband tried making a copycat recipe for this soup I just love from our favorite restaurant.  I didn't care what it tasted like because I was so touched at his effort.  
• Send a note to someone unexpectedly.  Handwritten notes are the original text messages!  I would also challenge you to send a note to that sibling, friend, or family member that you haven't spoken to (but only if you're ready).
• Keep a gratitude journal.  The whole family can do this.  At my house we say, "tell me something good."  Writing it down will help you look back later on and remember with gladness.  

 
I can recall both the uncomfortable incidents and happy moments throughout my lifetime.  I  can see the ruin and the rainbow.  When we look back on this year I hope that we'll be able to see both sides too.